Let The Other Person Save Face…

Letting one save face! How important, how vitally important that is! And how few of us ever stop to think of it! We ride roughshod over the feelings of others, getting our own way, finding fault, issuing threats, criticizing a child or an employee in front of others, without even considering the hurt to the other person’s pride.

Whereas a few minutes’ thought, a considerate word or two, a genuine understanding of the other person’s attitude, would go so far forward alleviating the sting!

Let’s remember that the next time we are faced with the distasted necessity of discharging or reprimanding an employee.

Calling attention to one’s mistake indirectly works wonders with sensitive people who may resent bitterly any direct criticism.

Don’t Scold……

If a man’s heart is rankling with discord and ill feeling toward you, you can’t win him to your way of thinking with all the logic in the world. Scolding parents and domineering bosses and husbands and nagging wives ought to realize that people don’t want to change their minds. They can’t be forced or driven to agree with you or me. But they may possibly be led to, if we are gentle and friendly, ever so gentle and ever so friendly.


It is an old and true maxim that “a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.” So with men, if you could win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein a drop of honey that catches his heart; which, say what you will, is the great high road to his reason.


By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected. Two thousand years ago, Jesus said: “Agree with thine adversary quickly.”



Source: Dale Carnegie