If a man’s heart is rankling with discord and ill feeling toward you, you can’t win him to your way of thinking with all the logic in the world. Scolding parents and domineering bosses and husbands and nagging wives ought to realize that people don’t want to change their minds. They can’t be forced or driven to agree with you or me. But they may possibly be led to, if we are gentle and friendly, ever so gentle and ever so friendly.
It is an old and true maxim that “a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.” So with men, if you could win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein a drop of honey that catches his heart; which, say what you will, is the great high road to his reason.
By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected. Two thousand years ago, Jesus said: “Agree with thine adversary quickly.”
Source: Dale Carnegie
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